The responsibility of parents to home education blind
neglected children family education for spiritual growth is the biggest blind spot!
concerned about the growth of the child mind is the concern that a popular children's mental health, Personality.
the important role of child mental health
psychological factors on human behavior have a tremendous impact
Psychological test - everything
psychology of learning The problem is caused by poor quality of the psychological fear of school girls
mental health of Chinese children
20% of the children had depressive symptoms (and their parents expect too much from the relevant )
a variety of mental health disorders are 30 million young people, and increased year by year
prevalence of mental disorders is currently 16 million, one third at a young age incidence
educational purposes distorted:
both ability and integrity of education is to cultivate people
child mental health can contribute to society (Lu Gang, Liu Haiyang) < br>
parents concerned about the results, ranking, ignoring the child's psychological feeling
tenth phenomenon, br> mental state exam before the exam
the psychological state of learning based on learning methods
memory came in 17th
< br> psychological growth of the five nutrition
Human Growth:
physical growth: whole grains, protein, calcium, carbohydrates and cellulose
spiritual growth requires:
sure, freedom, emotions, dreams
tolerance and spiritual growth needs the
usually talk with their children, most often say that?
obedient!
learn!
good for nothing!
three sentences of the core is in the negative
spiritual growth needs the child's hope (3671)
want to see my Mom and Dad progress (56.82%)
Mom and Dad do not want to take their old home with children than others (54.67%)
recognized psychological needs, more than the desire for money and entertainment!
other people's children are more often and more
more self-esteem than children
spiritual growth is certainly an important nutrient child
build self-confidence, develop perseverance He changed the quality of
children learn to appreciate your need for appreciation Shangqie
adults, children especially
only you can appreciate me!
recover the index finger, thumbs up!
spiritual growth needs of the new century, freedom of independent living needs of the child
21 century is the century of self-selection, the children must learn the ability to choose
futurist said: They must actively manage their own. competent;
Free the Children's eyes,UGG boots clearance, so that they can see;
Free the Children's mouth, so that they can talk;
time of the liberation of children, so that they can be creative force;
Free the Children of space, so that they can to the nature of the larger society to learn a wealth of knowledge.
spiritual growth needs freedom
spiritual freedom is the basis of independent
Google founders Sergey Brin (Sergey Brin) and Larry Page (Larry Page) On successful
own business, responsible for their own, themselves
encouraged to try to actively autonomy, self-driven
Chinese parents arranged for the children too much
everything arranged, to develop the child's dependency and inertia;
every design, ignore the child's interest and choice real
spiritual growth needs freedom for children freedom of choice;
time and space to the children free;
disposable pocket money to children free;
to the children the freedom to vent emotions.
to the children the freedom to choose
help children to choose according to their own interest to help
explore their own interests without too many rules, so that children to do the things they like to cultivate children
responsible
choice of time and space to the children free
play to ensure the child's rest time and space
not to report too many classes
ensure that children and social interaction in time and space
with classmates, friends, contacts free
activities to ensure that children to be independent of time and space
separate outings
alone to allow more children have the opportunity to get along with people.
Dale Carnegie (Dale Carnegie) said:
, coping skills.
time and space to the children the freedom to
0-6 years: love = time (accompanied)
6-12 years: love = coach (traction)
12-18 years: love = trust, respect
> 18 years of age: remind
love = pocket money to children the freedom to govern their children pocket money as soon as possible
money, and teach the basic cash management experience
with age and consumption needs of children increased with
limited, do not give children the uncontrolled venting
free
not to suppress the child's feelings are normal human emotions and feelings are often suppressed
children lack self-confidence, emotional indifference
help children to accept all human
positive, negative, sickness and death and need for spiritual growth
emotions: people appreciate nature, compatible with the natural ability,
compassion and caring capacity < br>
yearning for beauty of nature close
kindness and compassion for others (EQ)
child emotional development is a key factor in personality development
EQ and IQ is the success of intelligence, emotional intelligence determines the life of happiness, success
EQ mainly refers to the size of the confidence, persistence, perseverance, optimism, patience, intuitive, anti-frustration,
cooperation and a series of reactions with the personal qualities of the degree of control a person rational use of emotion and manipulation capabilities.
self-awareness, including emotional intelligence ability, that is, their perception;
emotional control;
self-motivation, self-development; < br>
understanding of the ability of others;
interpersonal skills.
EQ is a kind of spiritual power, man's virtue, is a personality factor.
the characteristics of high-intelligence traders
passionate, strong internal driving force;
targeted, keep the faith;
positive attitude, optimistic self-confidence; < br>
frustration and strong, keep on fighting;
strong emotional control, the use of temper;
relationship is good, so every edge.
EQ, IQ
EQ is more important than IQ! EQ decision of the achievements!
spiritual growth and need to cultivate children's ability to move
parents learn to help themselves Thanksgiving
children to nature to < br>
good to cultivate children's ability to
humility, patience, tolerance, with people
little girl picking flowers
spiritual growth needs to encourage tolerance
children grow strong in defeat
child learning to walk, learning to talk
unconditional love child
understanding of behavior
open channels of communication (gap)
understanding into the inner world of a child the only channel, but also to find out what makes the child the reason why the only way < br>
mind the developmental needs of dreams
big winners are big dreamers
as long as the heart and dreams, people will live in hope, and continue to create the miracle of life
have a dream of passion, motivation and develop their potential and achieve goals
as long as we can think of, we can do it!
spiritual growth needs for the butterfly dream
pupate, the children every now and caterpillars have the right to dream, it is necessary for spiritual growth!
the face of setbacks, psychological self-help
protection of their parents too, ignored a setback education
the teacher misunderstood his suicide
lack of face if a child self-help capacity of frustration, lack of a good state of mind with frustration,
his mind is not only difficult than Tiankong broad, even narrower than the Menfeng will eventually defeated by their own narrow mind.
defeat, so that children understand that life can not be plain sailing
full of failure, frustration, hardship
strong human nature is not only the bright side, there are weak dark side . desire to not just
many efforts are sure to achieve.
's success is not solely the result, but is worth the effort and persistence.
frustrated the purpose of education
attitude adjustment, self-confidence with a positive attitude towards the difficulties
understand their own advantage, and avoid weaknesses get exposed children
frustration and failure of courage and wisdom
results of a high school female students decreased depression.
mother with the child, said:
how many points you have is not important that you continue to improve their own learning,
does not matter how many points your next exam , ranked number is not important as long as you feel, you learn the methods of enhancing the winner.
the responsibility of parents
Parents are their children the best teachers
the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand of the world to promote the quality of decision
mother was the nation the quality of the quality of the decision
father was the backbone of the nation's hearts healthy and good
parents give to a child's most valuable asset
they might be parents, but not inherently parents will be happy
willing to excellent growth of the child's parents must learn
our intention to give the parents of friends who are eager to learn and willing to go for the children grow up happy to help.
friends: Life is a one-way travel, no return flight, the child is not old in the past, the old past, no,
no past fifteen years, in order to not do sorry things, to keep learning, to enhance their ability,
accompany their children take a good critical period of life!
children's education, my responsibility!
I changed, the child can change!
reward the child than the Writing, painting, brush their teeth, make your bed, what helped Swing dishes, are able to give you the money to buy toys and snacks to give material rewards Caixing way. I think this is because her father was too busy, come back to buy this buy that for better and for worse, I am worried that in doing so, one day will Ningning spoiled.
American mother: Ms. Cathy, son Brian, 6-year-old some time ago, Brian's teacher told me that Brian does not like to study in class, do not actively raise their hands to answer questions. Then Brian called me to him, and asked him why. Brian said he was embarrassed in front of the class face to answer questions or read aloud, he was afraid of wrong answers or read the wrong joke by others.
overcome the psychological barriers in order to encourage Brian, I gave him a piece of a special calendar, if he read aloud in class that day or take the initiative to answer the teacher's questions, you can get 1 star. If he can get a week, 3 stars to be rewarded at the weekend, to the store to buy stationery or toys he likes. Got 5 stars if one week, he can get the highest rewards, choose their favorite weekend activities such as watching movies, to restaurants to eat, play, go to amusement parks, the whole family had to obey. In addition, he can go to bed half an hour later, while playing video games and more.
proved very effective such incentives, a few weeks later, Brian became more confident.
Experts
Beijing University of child psychologist Ruggie: Generally speaking, children welcome reward by the spiritual rewards, emotional rewards, activities, reward and material incentives. Spiritual rewards that encourage the growth of children, including, certainly, satisfied, praise, respect, admiration and appreciation, etc.; emotional rewards, including smiles, hugs, Paijian, concern, touch, clapping, blinking, etc.; activities, including incentives to the park with her mother, play together, listen to adults tell stories, play games together with the children, etc.; material rewards, including ice cream, balls, books, magazines, special snacks, toys, clothing and so on.
Some parents think that is the reward to the child what he wants, give the child a reward,Bailey UGG boots, the more they will continue good behavior. In fact, these ideas are one-sided. Psychologists for many years observed, the children pay more attention to the spiritual rewards, the more so the older kids. Excessive awards will focus on the child to be rewarded for something up, rather than the parents want the behavior occurs. Therefore, the incentive to diversify, while the bigger kids, parents will have to pay attention to emotional and spiritual rewards, the reward must be limited to avoid
American child psychologist, Dr. Meyers: American parents encourage children like verbal, hanging in their parents mouth. But I believe that although the children of parents verbally encouraged the growth of very important, if combined with other forms of incentives would be more effective. These incentives can be material, such as buying new toys, buy new shoes; also some children like activities, such as playing video games, watching movies with my classmates, to the park to play or play; also can let the children enjoy some usually do not enjoy the right to decide to family weekend activities, choose to go to a good restaurant to eat, so your children to play at home.
using a variety of rewards, in the long term to encourage children to better achieve the purpose. The initiative to the children and let them choose one they like to do is to reward children's favorite. Of course,UGGs, the most easily implemented as an oral encouragement, the parents must not be spared. And remember, no incentives are not a substitute for the child such that hug the body language of love, because they feel their parents most of these moves. Growth, need to wait for the 19th century,Discount UGG boots, Americans have imported a large number of planted eucalyptus from Australia to promote the local forestry. Because they found: ten years in Australia need to grow or even decades to become useful in the eucalyptus, this fertile land in the United States within three years, the rapid 能 length of about 24 centimeters in diameter, 14 meters high above the trees. However, the Americans never expected that the combination of all of them want these eucalyptus grown after it became a pile of waste wood, is simply difficult to cut and process: the longitudinal split columns Association, saw the board will be under bending, full of inexplicable crack, crack extension will be open to. For a time, the United States which the eucalyptus-based companies have gone bankrupt.
eucalyptus American businessmen in order to speed up the growth rate can be described as tactful. They travel long distances, the transplantation of Eucalyptus from Australia to the United States, and be nurtured in time for expulsion of predators. On the surface, and indeed expectations by eucalyptus, they not only learn from their roots of nutrients, and even neighboring plants and all of the moisture absorption, so that other plants have suffocated. To one hundred percent Mao Ling Corner In this sense, However, people did not expect that these harm, and will not plunder their own nutrients. Eucalyptus will depend on these sub-extend their growth cycle, regulating their growth rate to respond to changes in the external environment. But never one hundred percent of these lessons is the human (or natural) given nutrients, growth up dawdle, people often and other wood! This is disturbing to stand up amazing. Growth rate in the contests, transplanting the United States accounted for the absolute superiority of eucalyptus; in the final outcome of the Competition, the growth of eucalyptus in Australia, but the facts speak louder than words to come to a big turn things around - turn the tables. Both in the unexpected outcome, but also reasonable that: Eucalyptus only in normal, pests and fungi under the slow growth supporting, their organization is the most optimized; and Americans for the creation of too fertile eucalyptus, there is no natural enemies excellent condition, has undermined the growth of Eucalyptus environment, contrary to the growth of Eucalyptus law so that they become a waste of natural wood.
often hear parents complain that: so clear and detailed, also repeatedly stressed the attention point, how they still like the 'dumb head' - that does not enlighten it? , can do is not waste, all the absorption of it? Each of them, not how much you want him to learn something, he would really be able to learn quickly how much of the you like the They have their own growth pattern, there are independent-minded people. In growing up, they will learn to select the hesitation and doubt, to learn and explore in the rebellious inferred, in the face of setbacks and difficulties, learn to be strong, learn to adapt to constantly hone, in constant process of adaptation, the children will grow up gradually . Do not think that we give children how to create favorable conditions - perhaps this is simply not necessary environment for children to grow up, and even had destroyed the child's growth pattern; do not complain, why is the education of our children have frustrated good intentions if not heard Perhaps only the fact that the child will have unforgettable experience; not unfounded, how the child do not understand anything, nothing will, the net to do some stupid things, stupid things all kids just to finish out, and from harvest little before will try to do something meaningful. With the growth conditions of the child, destined to have some They appear to poison our next generation, but in fact enhance the child's immune system; appears to impede the child's growth process, but in fact reinforces the effectiveness of children as they grow. Children have to be really in the face of adversity, step by step, down to earth to grow up. If we grow in pursuit of the child's speed, pre-empt for them to remove all obstacles on the road ahead, and to increase training efforts and shorten the training period, these practices with those of another American businessman planting eucalyptus He Yi? They had plenty of harvest to a cluster of gorgeous looks, few real materials waste, do we also want to follow in their footsteps?
famous Italian writer Collodi children in the novel In the story, Pinocchio eventually become small, a real child, with all kinds of virtues: humility, filial piety, studious, hard-working, helpful ... ... but in the story, the children are small puppets for the bizarre experience and fascinated by tough character. Why would they have suffered so characters like image? Perhaps it is because the above have their dreams, or is the epitome of someone who in it? In their heart of hearts, but also his deep desire to have such a bizarre and colorful adventures, the envy of others to have the experience necessary for growth. Those of us self-righteous adults, but always in blocking their hopes, wish to impose on them their own, always anxious to ask kids One hand, we want the baby to Pinocchio, and later as a perfect, on the other kids go Pinocchio tried to evade the previous growth path, fantasy of arrangements on the road, to avoid all risk, without any wind and rain, smooth sailing to reach the Just think, if our children do as we wish, like the planting of eucalyptus in the United States, like speeding up growth, they will have children with normal growth of the same intrinsic quality of it?
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